Are You Still Lying to Yourself?
As women, we often get stuck in these ruts that stifle and keep us from pushing forward. We start allowing negative thoughts to creep into our minds, and as a result, we lose ourselves. These feelings are especially prevalent in women who juggle work, home, parenting, school, and anything else that takes up our time.
Too often, women fall victim to hostile self-ideologies because we believe we must be the best in every aspect of our lives. I sure have fallen for this trap; the most frustrating part is that it is totally self-inflicted. I want to remind every woman reading this right now that you do not have to listen to lies forming in your head about why you can't change your life. You are a beautiful, resilient, talented woman and you will soar once you stop lying to yourself.
You may feel like you are not as good as you were in your self-defined "prime" before you had kids or a family or took on more responsibility at work. Sometimes, I look at pictures from my past and say, "Man, I was so happy then," "I wish I was still that size." But I have to constantly remind myself that when I have these thoughts, I am sabotaging my present and stagnating my future. I need to focus on working on being my best self right now; otherwise, I will always be stuck in the past.
We all have the potential to be better than we were in the past, but we must stop feeding ourselves lies that we need to "get back to" something, that we need to be perfect right now, or that we can never be our best again.
Three Tips to Help You Change
Make a promise to yourself that you will change today. I heard on a podcast that I was listening to this week that women are more likely to keep a promise they make to someone else than they are the promises they make to themselves. We make a promise to ourselves and then come up with excuses as to why we cannot keep it. You matter too. Keep your promises to yourself.
Ask God to help you change. Mark 11:24 says, “For this reason, I tell you, when you pray and ask for something, believe that you have received it, and you will be given whatever you ask for (GNT).
Write down everything you are not pleased with about your life. Instead of coming up with a reason why you cannot change it, write down one small, obtainable goal that will help you change it.
You Must Remember:
Stop telling yourself that you are not too young to be taken seriously.
You are not too out of shape to be more social or leave the house more; stop telling yourself that.
You don't lack the creative skills to think outside the box or create something people can resonate with.
Yes, you may be a single mom, and it may take a little longer to achieve that master's degree. But, you can still do it.
Yes, you may have ruined your credit in college, but all hope is not lost, you can find a way to a better financial situation.
Yes, you may have gained some weight that makes you more self-conscious but that shouldn’t stop you from being social.
You are not too old to achieve what you've always wanted.
